Syrian Refugee Mother In Lebanon Loses Hope

One hand clutched onto the curtain, the other protecting her head, she crouched next to the sofa in her living room trying to protect herself from the rubble falling around her. This is how Fatmeh spent her final moments in Idlib, a city in northeastern Syria afflicted by the ongoing war. She now lives in a modest tented settlement in Mount Lebanon with her husband and two children. 

Fatmeh recalls gasping for breath, ducking and crawling toward her husband Ahmad who was cradling their son Belal underneath the dining table when their neighbourhood in Idlib came under attack. They held each other until the shelling subsided and escaped that same day. The rest is all a blur.

“We had no choice. We had to leave,” Fatmeh explains. “The next thing I remember is climbing into a car that took us to the border and that’s where the real nightmare began.”

The brutal war in Syria has forced over one million Syrians to flee to Lebanon, where the bid for survival is growing bleaker by the day. The longer refugees stay in exile, the more vulnerable to hunger, illness and desperate they become.

It has been three years since Fatmeh and Ahmed arrived in Lebanon. During their first year, they could rely on humanitarian assistance to make ends meet, but when the humanitarian funding crisis began in 2013, all support stopped. A year later, their youngest son Moaz, was born and life became even harder. 

Fatmeh in her living room with her soon
Photo: WFP/Dina El Kassaby

At that time, the number of Syrian refugees receiving food assistance from the World Food Programme (WFP) fell by almost 30 percent in its initial efforts to prioritise those most in need. This year, as the crisis in Syria continues and funding challenges become more severe, WFP is prioritising the most vulnerable refugees for food assistance. This means that 50,000 refugees who can support themselves have stopped receiving support.

More about the cuts in food assistance:

In January, due to lack of funding, WFP was forced to reduce the amount of money loaded onto electronic food cards it provides for refugees from US$27 to US$19 per person each month. In July, deeper cuts were introduced, bringing the value down to US$13.5.
Read the News Release.

A hundred steps back

This April, Fatmeh and Ahmad, living desperately, got the news that they would start receiving food assistance again, but it's too little too late.

During their first year in Lebanon, Ahmad occasionally found work in construction or farming; this work is the reason why the family stopped getting external assistance. But the longer they stayed in Lebanon, the more these opportunities became scarce. To make matters worse, the couple had no choice but to skip meals, borrow and even beg for money and, worse, expose themselves to exploitative labour for low wages.

“Our son was born with heart complications and needs constant medical care, but we also need to eat to stay alive,” Fatmeh explained. “When we can’t afford both medicine and food, I tie scarves around my boys’ bellies at night so they don’t wake up crying from stomach aches because they are hungry.” Fatmeh shares a common belief that tying something around your midsection would stave off hunger.

"Every time we take one step forward, we fall ten steps back."
Fatmeh and Ahmad’s initial removal from humanitarian assistance put them on a downward spiral, pushing them into extreme poverty to a point that any extra shock could push them over the edge. These are the unintended consequences of reduced humanitarian assistance. 

“Every time we take one step forward, we fall ten steps back. I have given up the hope that we will ever live normally again,” Fatmeh said, defeated. “I know the world has forgotten us too; we’re too much of a burden. They’ve given up on us too.”

In the middle of Ramadan, when refugees need support most, WFP in Lebanon has been forced yet again to reduce the amount of money it provides to Syrian refugees in Lebanon.

Update - October 2015

When WFP’s Dina El-Kassaby shared the story of Fatmeh, a Syrian refugee mother in Lebanon who had lost all hope, we received an outpouring of support for Fatmeh and her son Moaz. In the first 10 days over 2 million people read her story and many shared it. Dina spoke recently to Fatmeh and told her of the impact she had had on people across the world. 

Dina: Remember when you told me that you felt the world has forgotten you?

Fatmeh: Yes, I still feel that way…I feel so alone here, Dina.

Dina: I shared your story as I promised I would. In only 10 days over 2 million people read it and shared it with their friends and family online. I received calls and messages from people all over the world from around the Middle East, from Europe and North America, from Asia…people told me to tell you that they support you, that they sympathize with you and wish they could help you. So many sent their best wishes for Moaz and asked me to assure you that the world has not forgotten you. 

Fatmeh began to weep…

Dina: Because of your story, hundreds of thousands of people sent donations to WFP which will be used to load the electronic vouchers for refugees across the region. That is thanks to you. You can consider this your own charity, that you yourself have raise money for others who share your plight.

Fatmeh: I don’t believe it! I feel like I’m dying alone in this camp, Dina. Like you’re the only person who knows I exist. I wish I could see you again.

Dina: No dear, millions of people heard your voice and you inspired so many to help. This is thanks to you!

Fatmeh asked Dina to promise that she would return to Lebanon to visit her again. They keep in touch with Fatmeh regularly over the phone and WhatsApp messenger. Stay tuned to hear more about Fatmeh next time Dina visits.